Whether it’s your first date (or your twentieth), the dancers would rather you go out for a pleasant dinner someplace else over bringing your date to a strip club NZ.
So you want to take your date to a club where the primary purpose is for you to ogle at other women. Taking your date to one is fine if that isn’t an issue for both of you!
However, maybe you’re a sophisticated individual who enjoys the fun/glam factor of the strip club experience and understand how not to pit one woman against another. Maybe coming to the strip club with your partner seems like a good time, up-ing the seductive nature of your date. But (what if) you’re not confident how to handle the scenario given the strip club’s cultural standards, which presumes the typical client is either single or part of a bachelor party. If that’s the case, here’s how to invite your date or girlfriend to a strip club at any point in your relationship…
THE FIRST DATE – Hell, No!
If you’re wondering whether you can bring your first date to the club, the answer is no.
However, it’s possible that you’ve bumped into a true wildcard! This means the girl is absolutely cool with strip clubs and proposes that the two of you spend your first date there.
Maybe it’s simply that women sometimes feel compelled to show how calm and laid-back they are by inviting themselves to the gentlemen’s club. However, not everyone is ready for the truth of the situation, which is OK since the club isn’t for everyone! In any case, the first date isn’t the best moment to find things out.
If [women on dates] aren’t asking dancers to perform the whole Cirque du Soleil routine for $3, Katherine, a professional stripper dancer says they look either angry or sad, (and feel stupid) questioning why they got there in the first place.
Some ladies feel terrible for the dancers, which is unfortunate since they could have simply gone out to dinner with their guy and avoided the entire situation.
In terms of logistics, the strip club isn’t the best recommendation for a first date. Wouldn’t it be nice to get to know each other first, over dinner somewhere a lot calmer, where your attention isn’t continually drawn to a stage full of naked women? Your date is more likely to agree to this!
EARLY IN THE RELATIONSHIP
Basically, the same idea applies here: she needs to be the one to suggest, or at least have signalled that she is interested in going there. The
strip club is popular with ladies. It’s entertaining! It’s possible for beautiful ladies to be kind (and generous) to the dancers, too. But here’s the catch: you’ll have to pay extra for it. And if you’re unwilling to do so, regardless of gender, you don’t belong in the club.
Most women will not understand or appreciate the club since it is focused on male entertainment. They come for the novelty element and are more interested in entertainment, which disrupts the bustle.
Men who spend time at the club are typically stuck emotionally in a poor or non-existent relationship. (So) Ladies who walk into the club with their husbands are bewildered and disturbed.
Even if a lady seems to be enthusiastic about the club, things may not proceed as anticipated. John, a 35-year-old Maunganui Road resident shared his experience –
I’ve been dating this girl for about a month. She recommended that we go. After being there for about 15-20 mins she started getting all jealous and made things pretty awkward. Then she asked that I buy her a lap dance. I was irritated at the time, so I refused; she forced us to leave.
The next time John went to a
strip club in Maunganui Road with a new companion with whom he had previously been acquainted on another occasion. He adds, “We went drunk and made an impulsive choice.” However, the girls adored her; she drew additional attention to herself, and I was enjoying it.”
Because jealousy was not a problem in this instance, both parties had a wonderful time. Even still, the strip club isn’t a suitable location for a date — or for straight women in general. Women are simply trying to get by, and their target consumers aren’t other women. Katherine claims that “female consumers believe we’re showgirls, not businesswomen.”
“I was living with my college girlfriend when an old acquaintance, the actual girl next door from home, came to visit,” Josh, a 40-year-old from Christchurch, says. We made the decision to assist in the repayment of a dancer’s debts. My buddy decided she wanted a private lap dance, so the three of us went out and had a wonderful time.
My partner and I began to worry about what had happened after she had been gone for half an hour. She apologised vehemently, claiming that she had misunderstood the regulations of the club and had inadvertently received approximately $250 of personal attention that she couldn’t afford.”
Josh’s girlfriend, to cut a long tale short, ended up footing the bill.
SPICING UP YOUR LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP
Suzanne, a dancer in Maunganui Road
strip club, adds, “One of my greatest evenings ever was because of a married couple. They were frequent visitors to the club, spending thousands of dollars each time they visited. They were having a good time watching each other receive dances. They were, however, a little too handsy, as if they thought they could get away with more since they were together.
Couples, on the other hand, aren’t worth your attention in general.
“I’ve seen couples come in for anniversaries or their man’s birthday, just for the novelty,” Suzanne adds. “They won’t spend more than $100 on dancers in most cases. However, this is preferable to those who are in the early stages of their relationship, dating or just following their guy about. Having said that, I went to a club with my ex-boyfriend — we were together for seven years — and we had a good time. His ex was also inside, dancing.
I tipped her $20 since I thought she was the prettiest. But, if my guy had been there alone, she could have definitely gotten him inebriated and made a bag out of him. As a result, I was able to put a halt to her bag in that capacity. For obvious reasons, she couldn’t hustle him with me there.”
This is one of the main reasons why Suzanne, as a dancer, believes that couples should avoid going to the club: dancers earn more money when their clients’ wives or girlfriends aren’t there. “Now, I appreciate every money, even those spent by women,” she adds, “but the club isn’t really for females who don’t work there.”
Katherine, on the other hand, is OK with ladies going to the club with their boyfriends as long as they aren’t disrespectful or angry. She just has one piece of advice for men: give your lady some real money to throw about.
So, basically, there’s no single rule for bringing or not bringing your date or girlfriend to a
strip club. It all depends on your +1 and we can hope it turns out well for you (and her)!
